How to Not Cry When Being Yelled At
Finding yourself crying in front of someone yelling at you is a truly sad experience. Not only it’s embarrassing, but it also can damage your reputation at work, school, or home.
Of course, crying is a normal part of being human, but on some occasions, you just have to hold back the tears. So, what can you do? Let’s just head right into how to not cry below?
1. Pinch or squeeze the skin between your forefinger and thumb. Hold your hand net tightly and firmly. Squeeze it firmly enough to hurt, but not hard enough to bruise. The pain will bother you, and you are less likely to cry.
2. Take a deep breath. When you feel yourself energized, take deep, slow breaths. This will force your body to calm down and distracts you a little from whoever is yelling at you, which may be enough to avoid a crying session.
3. Turn away. Look at something other than the person yelling at you. Focus on your desk, your hand, or any other object in front of you. Breaking eye contact with an angry person will help you calm down.
4. Take a step back. Keep your distance from the person shouting at you by taking a step back or sliding back in your chair. Controlling your physical space can make you feel less helpless and reduce your urge to cry.
5. Excuse yourself from the situation. If you can't help but cry, simply move away from the situation. Make excuses if you can, like not feeling well. You can also let people know that you are too upset to keep talking to them. Go somewhere private to cool off.
6. Get privacy. Go to your car, the restroom, your office, or any other place you won't be disturbed. If you need to cry, get it out there. Give yourself all the time you need until you feel calm again.
7. Combating puffy eyes by apply cold water under your eyes to reduce redness and swelling. You can also use ice cubes wrapped in a napkin.
8. Use eye drops such as Visine to get rid of redness in the eye. Put a drop or two in each eye. Your eyes will appear clear in 10 to 15 minutes.
9. Improve your makeup. If you wear makeup, this is a good distraction to fix it. Remove runny eye makeup and other areas on your face that are stained with blemishes. Use a foundation or concealer to hide any red areas or blots. Finish with some mascara, blush, or whatever isn't working through your crying.
10. Let the other person know that you cry easily. If you tend to get angry easily all the time, practice preemptive damage control by telling your boss, coworkers, family, and friends. Emphasize that this is no big deal, and tell them how best to react if it does.
11. Directly talk to people who yelled at you. After you calm down, ask the person who yelled at you if they could talk to you privately. Resolve problems and apologize if you did something wrong. Then tell them how you feel about their shouting, and politely ask them to talk to you more calmly in the future.
12. Think about why conflicts make you cry. This is when you need to ask yourself how it felt when someone yelled at you. If you can identify where your tears are coming from, you may be able to come up with some alternative coping strategies.
13. Come up with several alternative strategies. Think about what you can do or say when someone is angry with you. Visualize yourself remaining calm and collected as you employ new strategies.
14. Find healthy ways to deal with stress. If you face chronic stress, you may be more likely to cry in tense situations. Controlling stress can stop this from happening. Try to think about some relaxing activities you can do most days to keep stress away.
15. Speak to a counselor. If your crying is affecting your relationships or interfering with your work or school performance, it's a good idea to see a mental health professional to find out what's going on. A counselor or therapist can help you figure out why you cry so often and find ways to stop.
16. You can also try talking to a friend if you feel uncomfortable talking to a counselor. If you explain your problem to someone that you are close to, you need to be able to open up to them, and then also be able to open up to yourself.
If you don't share your problem, you yourself may not be able to see the problem. You can express how you feel about the situation and explain how you can avoid it at future events. If your friends are real friends, they will try to console and comfort you, instead just sitting and watching you suffer.
How to Not Cry While Arguing
There are several things you can to avoid crying while arguing. Here are they:
1. In the heat of the argument, don't be afraid to ask for a waiting time if the tears flow. Think of one thing when your argument started getting too heavy too.
2. Then, leave the room for a moment. Go catch a breath in the shower or take a walk. A 10-minute break can sometimes work.
3. Try to make a game plan for how to deal with future fights. If you cry more, dig to understand what your tears do: What emotions were behind the reaction? Or what concerns would you like to share with your partner?
4. The solution is not a tearless argument for the rest of your life together, but rather knowing how to deal with your emotions when tears inevitably come.
5. When the argument reaches its peak, try to remind each other that you are not fighting, rather you are fighting the problems.